The Fear of One

With a lot of time to think over the course of a road trip I was able to compile many thoughts of one thing.

That thing being why everyone is so afraid to be alone.

Why is happiness only a thing when there is two?

When did the standard get set that one cannot be happy without another one?

Sure, it gets lonely. But without being alone you will never know who you are. You will never know what your deepest wishes are. You will never know how to be your own person. You will never be truly comfortable with who you are.

Some of us get lucky and we find out who we are while with another person and are able to grow with that person but the stereotype of needing another to find ourselves should be gone.

Another person should add to your happiness. Not complete it.

Finding peace watching a sunset alone is a different kind of peace. Being able to enjoy your own company is the strongest power one person can have.

If a person enjoys their own company so much they then set a standard of what type of person is allowed to intrude on that solitude. It will take a special person to be allowed in. It is the most power a person can have. Being happy with being just one.

Then a time will come where someone wants to be the other one to your equation of two. They will have to be something so spectacular that you think most of your alone time would be even better with them.

But then you can’t get lost in the easiness of the company. You can’t morph into one. Two is one plus one. Two can never be just one. Never lose yourself. Never lose those moments of complete self peace.

ONE DAY

One day one will be okay.

Maybe it isn’t today. Or maybe it even isn’t tomorrow for you.

But everyone knows what it is like to be one. The ones that are now two never thought they would be there.

Enjoy being one. Enjoy being free. Enjoy having your own schedule. Enjoy being able to flirt your way into free things. Enjoy being able to get in the car and drive wherever without telling whoever. Enjoy watching movies and being amazed by the endings by yourself. Enjoy dancing alone in the kitchen while making dinner. Enjoy being your own date to a wedding.

Then one day you will enjoy all of that with another one.

Time is precious. Don’t waste it being angry that there isn’t one for you yet. And don’t force one that doesn’t want to stay. There are about 8 billion other ones to pick from. It’s so cliche to say but when you spend time alone you know that what is meant to stay will stay and what goes is meant to go.

Go. Be one. Be happy. You only get one life.